Carl Rogers

Psychology American 1902 – 1987 245 quotes

Founder of client-centered therapy

Most quoted

"When the other person is hurting, confused, troubled, anxious, alienated, terrified; or when he or she is doubtful of self-worth, uncertain as to identity, then understanding is called for. The gentle and sensitive companionship of an empathic stance… provides illumination and healing. In such situations deep understanding is, I believe, the most precious gift one can give to another."

— from A Way of Being, 1980

"I have found the greater the degree of congruence of experience, awareness, and communication on the part of one individual, the more the ensuing relationship will involve: a tendency toward reciprocal communication; a tendency toward more mutually accurate understanding; improved psychological adjustment and functioning in both parties; mutual satisfaction in the relationship."

— from A Theory of Therapy, Personality and Interpersonal Relationships, 1959

"I believe it will have become evident why, for me, adjectives such as happy, contented, blissful, enjoyable, do not seem quite appropriate to any general description of this process I have called the good life… I believe they would be perceived as by-products of the directions I have described."

— from On Becoming a Person, 1961

All quotes by Carl Rogers (245)

The only person who can educate you is yourself.

Freedom to Learn

The more I am able to be myself, the more I am able to trust myself.

On Becoming a Person

The greatest gift you can give someone is the gift of your presence.

Attributed

The only way to be truly happy is to be truly yourself.

Attributed

I have learned that I cannot force growth, but I can provide an environment where growth can occur.

On Becoming a Person

The only real security is the ability to cope with insecurity.

On Becoming a Person

The more I am able to listen, the more I am able to learn.

Attributed

The only way to understand life is to live it.

Attributed

I have found that when I am able to be truly present with another person, something magical happens.

A Way of Being

The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.

Attributed (Socrates, but often echoed by Rogers)

The very essence of the human person is that he is a being in process, a being who is becoming.

On Becoming a Person

Experience is, for me, the highest authority. The touchstone of validity is my own experience. No other person's ideas, and none of my own ideas, are as authoritative as my experience.

On Becoming a Person

We are, in a very real sense, the architects of our own experience.

On Becoming a Person

The fully functioning person is a person who is able to live in the present, to be open to experience, to trust his or her own organismic valuing process, and to be creative.

On Becoming a Person

The only reality I can possibly know is the reality I perceive at this moment.

On Becoming a Person

Growth occurs when individuals confront problems, struggle to master them, and through that struggle develop new aspects of their competence.

Freedom to Learn

The meaning of life is that it is to be lived, and it is not to be traded and conceptualized and squeezed into a system.

A Way of Being

When a person is understood, he or she feels accepted, and acceptance is a powerful catalyst for change.

On Becoming a Person

The core of man's nature is essentially positive.

Client-Centered Therapy

We are not just rational beings; we are also feeling beings, and our feelings are an important source of information.

On Becoming a Person